can you believe it?
after 8 long weeks, one return to 3dr and many attempts at solving I HAVE FLOWN.
Solution - was to reverse the throttle on the Turnigy TGY 9x tx AT the transmitter, NOT in Mission Planner
(I hate reversing throttle in any place - so probably not surprising I delayed fiddling with throttle)
this solved "no green bars to calibrate radio signals" issue in forum and several other erratic starup and setup issues
wow its so good to fly.
BIG thanks to all who helped - oh and the community wide.